It is unclear why we desire children when we all know without a doubt children equals no more “me” or “us” time. They are the ones who call the shots and determine how our schedules should look like. I do also agree to disagree with those who may disagree with me and say we are in control of our lives and schedules, but to what extent?
If we really think about it, even if we somehow have nannies to help us raise our kids in our absence, or day care centers that you pay a fortune to so that you can have time to go to work and provide for your family. In all these cases kids are the ones determining how our day should look like. Where you can go, what time you can go and so forth.
A good example is a child who falls sick and causes you to call your supervisor and change your work schedule. Or a child that decides they want you to take them to school because they don’t want to be on the bus with the other kids. The demands and unexpected surprises are endless, yet we love them to the moon and back.
Are kids a way of God showing us what true love is? A way for us to evaluate ourselves, our strengths and weaknesses? Our selflessness or selfishness? Are kids a wake up call for us? So, that we no longer make excuses of why we can’t do this and that, and decide to work hard to provide for these little humans that we’ve celebrated coming into this world? Are kids a way for us to be grateful to our parents for what they’ve done for us and what they went or are still going through because of us?
The diaper changing days, the running around in the hot sun, the late nights, the early mornings, the car seats taking up space in our cars, the strollers that we depend on heavily, the messy house, the pile of laundry (thank God for washing machines),and the whole nine yards.
Kids test our patience, our love language, our outlook about life and our inner fears. Kids are a way of God reminding us about forgiveness and love, unconditional love. And who doesn't love those mommy and baby photo-shoots with matching African fashion, kitenge dress and all. Ultimately, it's all worth it.
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