Therapy

 

What if this year, your biggest resolution isn’t hustle, weight loss, or perfection but healing?

Let's talk about why therapy matters, especially in seasons where life feels heavier, relationships feel more complex, and old coping mechanisms no longer work. While it’s okay to share frustrations with friends and loved ones, there’s a unique power in having an unbiased third party, someone trained in psychology, attachment styles, emotional patterns, and human behavior to help you understand why you do what you do.

In many cultures, therapy is misunderstood, mocked, or dismissed. But growth requires honesty. As we get older, we realize that what worked for us years ago may not work in this new season. Healing demands new tools, deeper self-awareness, and compassion—for ourselves and for others.

When you know better, you get to choose better.

You get to choose you.

XOXO

Mamatembo Safari

5 Things to Avoid in 2026

 

Does age really matter when we date?

Asking on behalf of my fellow women, why do most women in their late 30s and 40s date younger? What caused this great shift in the dating scene? What changed these couple of years that wasn't the case a few years back?

Does age really matter when we date? Is it more about personalities, maturity, world outlook? Is this more of a millennial women thing or a century thing? A deep dive into this is needed, perhaps with testimonials of real life situations that will bring clarity to what really is the reason behind this age-gap dating. 

 

If It Worked Then, It Still Works Now

For someone who hasn’t paid her cable subscription for over nine months, the last week of October gave me a reality check, if it worked then, it still works now.

The Freedom That Made Us Forget
Over the months, I’ve received countless calls from my cable provider with tempting offers, but I ignored them all. Some days, I’d pick up and hang up the moment I realized who was calling. Other times, not wanting to sound rude, I’d say, “She (me) isn’t here,” and end the call politely.

You see, we all crave power and control, and that’s exactly what the internet gave us.
The power to pause a movie and answer a call.
The flexibility to continue where we left off.
The joy of skipping commercials, or not having any at all.
The freedom from watching the same movie several times a week (I watched Monster-in-Law three times this week!).
That’s how most of us drifted away from cable. These days, the only time we sit still and watch something from beginning to end is at the cinema.

When Cable Became a “House Help Thing”
The last time I paid for a cable subscription was when my mom came to visit.
And, if we’re being honest, in most households with internet access, cable stays on only because the house-help or relatives want to catch their favorite daily or weekly local shows.
You may ask, what about the kids?
Well, they’re glued to their tablets watching YouTube, Netflix, or playing games.

Cable Tried to Catch Up But We’d Moved On
Some cable providers tried to meet us where we are by offering streaming services on mobile and desktop.
A great idea, truly.
But if you’re not a football fanatic, that gesture probably didn’t move you much.

Then Came October 29th
When our world stood still, we went back to our first love.
When we needed real-time updates about what was happening in our country, we turned to our decoders.
I, for one, was glued to Al Jazeera for coverage.

A Familiar Companion
For me, one particular cable provider was just that, a familiar companion from the early 2000s, when the lowest bundle cost $60, to today, when it’s as low as TZS 27,500.
We’ve truly come a long way.

Lesson Learned

Don’t ignore what worked years ago. Get yourself a cable subscription, you never know when you’ll need it again.