Rewiring Your Patterns

Do you ever find yourself subconsciously repeating patterns that no longer serve you?

Are you truly aware of who you are—and who you are meant to become?

At the end of each day, do you pause to take inventory of your life, your relationships, your work, your marriage, your choices?

How often do you recognize that some habits or thoughts are tied to an old version of yourself—an outdated paradigm holding you back from your future?

It’s time to shift.

It’s time to rewire your mind, your patterns, your way of life.

When you allow yourself to ACCEPT the process of rewiring, you open the door to a new paradigm—one that aligns with your purpose, your vision, your destiny.

Step into it boldly.

Walk in your rightful path.

Embrace the New You.

XOXO Mamatembo Safari

What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

This is exactly what you think it is, another cliche of a title. But wait, there is a catch. You see, sometimes what doesn’t kill you makes you wiser. December was one of those holiday seasons when I got to have a very slow two weeks. I struggled when my life slowed down. It felt odd being so busy, then all of a sudden everything slowed down. 

 To slow down, I worked on my arts and crafts. I made handmade earrings, bracelets, and I made a box from scratch. It was a good me-time that I needed.

Come January, I had a work trip that I needed very much. Traveling to different parts of Tanzania before delving into the busy bee work life. 

It took me falling ill for me to slow down again. My body knew I needed the break, but I cared about my work more. My body chose to say no. I felt like my body was defeating me, but little did I know, my body was telling me to slow down. 

So eventually, I listened. I worked from home, I allowed myself to have afternoon naps. I allowed my cousin to take care of me. I agreed to drink soups and whatever healthy meal I was advised to so that I can feel better. This is when I realized, even though I hated staying home, taking naps in the afternoon, or even eating healthy. I need all that for the next chapter of my life.

My body told me to slow down, because I kept pushing. My body was telling me it’s okay to slow things down, overworking doesn’t mean more happiness, more money or more joy. I am glad I listened to my body and I am now stronger because of it.

Random Acts of Kindness

It’s only Wednesday, yet this week feels like Friday every single day. It’s the kind of week where you just want to wake up at 9 a.m. because your body and mind are already on Saturday.

Unfortunately for us adults, there are reports to write, deadlines to meet, clients to satisfy, colleagues to collaborate with, and other stakeholders to align with.

Today, I found myself working from home—which I managed to do until 11 a.m., when the power went out. Left with a dying laptop and no internet, I had no choice but to drive to the office. Once there, I continued working while dealing with calls that required my immediate attention.

Demands were coming from every corner. I felt overwhelmed.In response, I retreated to my “hiding place”—silence—and agreed to everything being said. I had no energy left to argue, even if I knew I was in the right. My responses were: Okay. Sawa. I will do that. It’s fine. To the person on the other end, they must have been happy to avoid the feisty version of me, at least for once. But internally, I was one negative reaction away from bursting into tears.I felt emotional. No, it wasn’t that time of the month. It was just another day in the life of an adult.

Later, I went to my person, ready to collapse into silence without saying a word. I needed a hug. I needed peace. Seeing how distressed I was, he bought me a cup of hot chocolate and a slice of cake to cheer me up.That simple act of kindness changed my mood. It made me realize that sometimes, all we need is someone who says, I see what you’re going through. I have my own struggles too, but let me take a few moments to make your day better.

Lessons We Learn Along The Way

I recently attended my first live boxing competition. Growing up, I was always captivated by Mike Tyson’s matches and the adrenaline they brought. Watching this match as an adult, however, gave me some deeper reflections on life:

1. Fight for Your Destiny It might sound like a religious cliché, but I was reminded of Matthew 11:12, “The kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and the violent take it by force.” That boxing match was a vivid illustration of this. Life requires us to fight for what we want—nothing comes easy. In two bouts, one featuring male boxers and another with female competitors, the outcome was the same: the fighter on the offensive ultimately won. Neither bout ended with a knockout, but after all nine rounds, the boxer throwing the most punches earned the victory. Life rewards those who take action, not those who merely defend.

2. Never Lose Focus Although we are promised victory in life—because God says we are more than conquerors—we must remain focused. Throughout the match, spectators yelled advice and opinions, but the boxers never lost sight of their opponent. They were locked in on the prize. Similarly, in life, distractions are everywhere. If we lose focus, even when we're ahead, we risk letting setbacks, delays, and stagnation creep in. Just as in boxing, when we lose concentration, our adversary gets an opening to strike. We can’t move forward if we’re stuck dealing with the same obstacles over and over.

3. Confidence is Key One bout featured an older fighter going up against a newcomer. It was the shortest and most surprising match—over in less than five minutes. The older man kept falling out of fear, essentially giving up without being hit. On the other hand, the newcomer, brimming with confidence, dominated. This shows how crucial confidence is in life. Sometimes, it’s not about what you know or even experience—it’s about believing in yourself. When we exude confidence, fear dissipates, and our opponents, or challenges, have no choice but to back down.

I hope these lessons from my time at the match with my best friend resonate with you too.

Xoxo,

Mamatembo Safari