Silence

Is it just me, or do we get to embrace peace, silence and calmness when we get older? I mean come on, who wants to be at a club on weekends? Who wants to hear nagging friends, kids (I joke), family members, co-workers, neighbors? Don't you just want to be in a place where you get to spend more time with your thoughts? Do some self reflecting, get to figure things out, pray and do whatever you wanna do? I mean, you can watch Netflix, or cuddle with boo (to each their own). But I really mean it, is it just me or is everyone in their mid thirties onwards just want to have more time in silence than anything else? It's one thing to have silence, but it's another thing to let your mind wander towards the negative thoughts. Our brains know how to gravitate towards the things that hurt us, the pain, the sadness and everything bad that's ever happened to us. Who can relate? (anyone??? don't leave me hanging!!) I know I sometimes catch myself having those thoughts like, why did they do this to me? Why did I let myself do or go through that? And it takes a second to jump from being present and sober-minded, to living in the past and being a victim. I hate that. So,these days, I make sure I have my headset on, when I catch myself having negative thoughts, I immediately divert to things that make me happy, that can be some good old-school music, funny reels, a nice movie on Netflix / Prime Video or my most favorite, listening to the Bible on the Bible App. Silence is fun, silence is good, silence is scary, but through silence is when we get to really face ourselves. But we need to know when to stop negative thoughts that creep in when we are doing "SILENCE" xoxo Mamatembo

How To Keep Your Peace

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Sometimes, due to my unwillingness to have long conversations, I find myself saying the simplest thing that comes to mind - words like oh nice, that's good, okay, alright. Someone once told me that in conversations, I tend to think of things (like opinions) yet keep them to myself and that's not good communication, for the most part that's true. However, when I don’t want to seem critical, judgmental, or entertain a very unnecessary argument, keeping things to myself or responding with simple words is key. So I let things be and keep my peace. There's a joke that goes like this;

Man 1: how are you always able to remain calm?

Man 2: when I feel like an idiot is about to argue with me, I say okay and move on.

Man 1: That’s not possible.

Man 2: Okay

Sometimes you are better off agreeing with people just to avoid things from escalating to a verbal war, so you say as little as possible and keep your peace. But generally speaking though, if you really care for your peace of mind, regardless of the person you are talking with, agree to disagree and keep your peace. 

We all don’t and never will feel the same thing the same way, or see the same thing the same way, experience life the same way. As long as we are different, expect differences to happen.

And it’s okay! Be okay to not always win a conversation. Be okay to hear, evaluate a conversation and learn from what you can, or ignore and pray against what you think is not worth being in your head so that it doesn’t make you question your sanity.

A good example, you may have a house that has internal wooden security doors, but you decide to say your house has security doors, another person may argue your house has wooden doors, or internal doors. All view points are accepted, don't force people to see what you see, neither should you to be forced to see things the way another person sees them. This is similar to the glass is half full or half empty concept. What's important is that there is a glass and there is water, whether it is half full or half empty, it's all a matter of perspectives.

Allow your differences to be and embrace them. Grow in areas that you need to grow and don’t feel rushed to be who you are not, yet! Growth is a process. And the only way you are able to grow and embrace yourself and others is when you keep your peace and allow different views and opinions to co-exist without shaking your viewpoint.

Current state of Mind!!!

Peace.