Love Didn't Fail You

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How often do we blame love when human beings fail us? 

Do you remember the thoughts and words that came out of you when your ex broke your heart? Do you remember that feeling you felt? Maybe you hated all men / women. Maybe you thought love failed you because you believed in it yet a relationship didn't last. You obviously felt rejected, and lost all hope of ever falling in love again. But wait, was it love that failed you? How many times before did you fall in love? How many times before did you fall in love and swore it won't happen again, but then it did? 

Listen, often times, we fail to recognize that we are our own enemies, we the human race. You played a part in the death of your relationship and so did your ex. You hoped he or she would change, you hoped you would live happily ever after. You envisioned a life more beautiful than a Disney movie. But alas! things didn't turn out the way you expected or hoped. But love never failed you. He / she failed you. If love failed you, then there would be no one else in this world that loves you. So why blame love when you have more people that love you, fight for you and wish you well, compared to that one person who broke your heart? 

Love never failed you. A human being did. Embrace love in whatever form it comes, accept the heartbreak and work on your healing. Love loves to love you.

Xoxo

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Whose Job Is It Anyway

Repeat after me,

I am responsible for my own happiness 

I take full responsibility for my actions 

I am aware of my weaknesses and strengths 

I am not perfect therefore I do not expect others to be perfect 

Lack of perfection doesn't give me or others an excuse to be sloppy, mean, or do the bare minimum 

I receive what I put out

I am a product of what I allow into my body and mind

Sometimes, seeing things the way they really are, without assigning them an excuse, will help you live a better life. A meaningful life, where you take your actions seriously, you work on your boundaries, you say what you mean and mean what you say. Besides, it's your job to make your life work! 

Xoxo

Mamatembosafari

Your Mental Health Matters

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 Happy February everyone!

I recently came to appreciate 'Mental Health' conversations that I am seeing on social media platforms, especially from public figures. I truly believe it's necessary to have these talks and make sure they get the amount of attention needed to reach everyone. I for one needed a mental health break two years ago, and I was eager to start seeing someone about it to help me put things into perspective. I am not ashamed to say, I do see a therapist whenever I feel the need to unstuck.

As much as social media is to blame for a good amount of our mental health issues in the recent years, mental health is among the consistent issue regardless of age group.  There is no shame in talking about it! There is no shame in seeking help. As a matter of fact, we ought to be more supportive of those who put themselves out there to seek for help. 

I did an interview with someone and she said, - She knew she was not crazy, she was just depressed because she was homeless, she lived in her car with her kids, she was not able to provide for them, she felt stuck. - I applauded her for knowing that she was depressed and the reasons behind her depression, and for seeking help which ultimately enabled her come to a place where she and her kids are no longer depressed and they are able to meet their needs and live a safe life. 

You don't have to be wearing socks and pajamas to work to know you are in need of help. You could be going to work and doing life as usual like any other person, but deep down you feel stuck. You feel stuck because you are in a miserable job, but you need to keep the job because you need the health insurance, you have to pay rent and other bills. You could be feeling stuck in a marriage that isn't going anywhere, you are miserable but can't leave because you are not financially able to provide for the kids on your own or you just feel bad for separating the kids from a two parent household. Or maybe you are not ready to let go of the dream you always had of having a marriage and raising your kids with your spouse. You might also be feeling stuck because each year you clock a new age but no major developments can be seen, you don't have your own place, you don't have a job that can help you live on your own, you are not married, you don't have kids, you don't have that dream career, you can't seem to overcome a health challenge. 

Whatever your "STUCK" is, it's okay to seek help! Speak to someone who will help you put things into perspective and navigate your way through this mind game, because truth be told, there is always a way out!

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